The simplest answer to that question is; “Why not?”
For a more detailed response, the right questions must be asked.
To be considered for membership: Resolve
Why do others Resolve?
Many of our Members have big hearts. Such big hearts in fact, that they often have a hard time creating Healthy Boundaries. Resolving is a declaration of sorts of their intention to move forward in life. Inviting others to take The Pledge is a trial of compatibility. It is a form of added security, as well as a communication of desires and intentions for self and our relationships. We believe in the importance of putting such things to writing.
We also believe that investing time with those with similar goals, intentions and moral outlooks is the best investment that one can make. Sometimes love isn’t enough. Oftentimes, direction and compatibility should come first.
What is the goal of Resolving?
Direction. A needle on a compass when disoriented. A map in hand when lost. A benchmark truly worth reaching. Perfection is unattainable, but nothing worth doing in life is simple. Make a life of living, instead of simply living.
What is the advantage of the Resolves?
Not only do the Resolves mark a certain time in your life, they open up new doors and opportunities as well as new friendships and new hearts worth touching. Our members are deep loving and feeling creatures, less apprehensive of growing close to others on a similar path. Some of our Members also receive “Protection” by our House during the Consideration phase, if requested. Resolving will also put our Members on the invite list for future functions and create opportunities for molding the House in your own vision should you prove an asset to the House.
What is expected of those that Resolve?
Authenticity is what we hope for. Perfection is an illusion, while earnest effort and follow-through is what we admire most. We do not micromanage our Members to adhere to their Resolves to the letter, however we may remind our Members from time to time they made a Resolve to themselves if we feel they are causing unnecessary friction. As outlined elsewhere, Membership is a privilege… Not a right.
Do all that Resolve become Members of the House?
Absolutely not. If estimated, perhaps 1/6th of those that Resolve make it through the “Consideration” phase, and become Full Members. To Resolve is making a declaration of interest. If accepted, the next phase is to get to know the other members and to attempt to apply your Resolves. We may gel, we may not. Many of those that Resolve do not end up becoming Full or Core Members, as either the House does not work in their lives or they do not work in the House. Resolving and becoming accepted as a Recognized Member is the simple part. Becoming the best version of yourself is the hard part.
Are my partners required to Resolve?
No. In some cases, partners attached to a Recognized Member may be given membership by proxy. The Recognized Member then assumes full responsibility of said member by proxy. This may or may not come with Protection if requested by said partners.
In some cases, it should be encouraged that our Members invite those closest to them to make Resolves as well. Our House does not grow unless our members help to build it. Additionally, we hope that your partners of choice are also committed to the same level of integrity that we strive to exhibit as well. If not, wouldn’t most prefer to know this sooner rather than later?
Who knows, you and your partner(s) may end up becoming Core Members of your own House…
Who is restricted from making Resolves?
Those that are under 18 years of age should not be encouraged to Resolve, nor take the pledge. Those that have little or no intention of striving for greatness, nor those dishonest about their ability in committing to as many of their Resolves as possible. Also those that have not thoroughly considered the gravity of such a decision to become the best version of yourself possible should not waste their time.
Do I have to Resolve now?
No. No one will be overtly pressured to Resolve. Ever. There is a distinction between encouragement and peer pressure. Do what feels best in your own heart, based on what you want for the best version of yourself. Furthermore; should you wish to see who our Members are or what they are like, simply reach out. We would be happy to include you in some of our General Member communication channels before you Resolve should you desire.
Why should I Resolve?
To mark the definitive point in your life when you accept the fact that you are worthy of great things, and have the follow-through from this moment forth to accept that.
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